As a single person, it is most frustrating to be surrounded by couples everyday, while you tread along by your lonesome, wondering where you can find that other single person that will “complete you”. Your heart longs for someone who will hold your hand while you walk, look into your eyes lovingly and tell you how beautiful you are, even though you feel like you look like a hag.
It doesn’t help that relatives bug you why, at your age now, you are still unattached, blaming it on your physical appearance or your standards (high or otherwise), followed by threats of being left behind by your peers, or the expiration of your egg cells (for women), and a bleak future of dying alone, old and sagging and sad.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? YES, and one more question about my singleness and I’m gonna run out screaming, you say.
Tell me about it.
I have never had a boyfriend. Ever. And yes, I admit, it sucks at times. I’ve cried out to the Lord a lot of nights, asking why I have not found “the one”, why I don’t get flowers on Valentine’s Day, why no guy asks me out for a date. It even occurred to me that probably I might live my whole life single (considering the number of close relatives I have who are bachelors and old maids). It decreased my self-confidence, made me bitter, scared, and made me lower my standards.
One night I was praying, and I was talking to Him again about my love life (or lack thereof). I had just renewed my acceptance of Jesus and was rebuilding my relationship with Him, and was telling Him what I wanted in a partner, and noticed a change in my ‘preferences’. As I live a new life in the Lord and in His service, I want my future hubby to put the Lord first, above all else, and should be passionate about Him and, hopefully, serves Him also. I realized that if a man has those qualities, all the other nice things would follow (kindness, thoughtfulness, chivalry, etc). Of course, being good-looking won’t hurt, also, I told Him.
I have been asking for a man with those qualities, a man who will be worthy of my hand, whom I can look up to, respect, serve, love and adore. I’d like to call him “Sam” from Samuel, which meant “I have asked him from the Lord” (1 Samuel 1: 20b). This is what his mother Hannah decided to name him, after she, a barren woman, asked the Lord for a child, and He heard her cry.
I asked, “Lord how is Sam doing? How did his day go? When can I meet him?”
All I got was, “WAIT.”
And so I wait. As of today, there’re still no flowers delivered, no phone calls, no propositions. But I still continue to pray for this man, whom I believe exists. And every day the Lord assures me of this man’s existence, of how He is using this man in His service, molding him to be the worthy partner for me, the more I praise the Lord’s name, and grow to love ‘him’. Yes, I love this man, even if I don’t know him yet. And I’d like to believe that he loves me as well. But for now, he still has a lot of work to do for the Lord. And so do I. I am looking forward for that day that I will meet Sam face to face.
"But than anything else, put God's work first and do what he wants. Then the other things will be yours as well" Matthew 6:33 (Contemporary English Version)
 | wow, naman. nakakabless. hehe. ay nako, im sure pag nakita mo na si "Sam" mo, maooverwhelm ka sa ginawa ni God at gagawin pa sa inyo. you'd be glad you waited. =) yii, naeexcite ako sa magiging love story mo. hehehe. makikibalita nalang ako, ha? ;P |
 | >> It doesn’t help that relatives bug you why,
This blows. Relatives never accept the real reasons. They only drink up half-baked lies that you're forced to spin in order to shut them up. Sigh.
You know, one thing I've learned is that it's a waste of time to look for "the one". Just take whatever comes your way, and see where it goes from there. Life is too short to go around following society's "rules". Do what you want, say what you mean and everything should fall into place.
Just remember. No expectations, no disappointments. |
 | Yes you do deserve the best, dear :) Any man lesser ain't worthy of your attention :p hehe |
| Praise the Lord! :)
But of course sister, ihahayag ko sa buong mundo :-p wahahaha!
Miss you na cecille! |
 | i read a poem bout waiting from ate karen or ate evieve's..it's so inspiring..:) well, hehehe.. im not a single but i also don't have any boyfriends..:) but on valentines day, i received a garden of flowers! who gave/ showed it? it was the Lord! yup, coz i asked Him for it..ate mars, i think the best thing to do is to follow the Lord, wait..:) He's in charge. it's settled.Godbless. |
 | haaaaay. ako rin sister, minsan napapailing nalang ako habang nakadungaw sa bintana. Ang tagal talaga ng papa prince charming koh! ahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! |
 | Hay 'day! Baka nga talaga si Milby! Yung picture nyong dalawa ang proof! Bwahaha! Joke! :)
Oh well, alam mo na ang sasabihin ko kasi pareho tayo eh ;) I'm still waiting for my "M" ;) Tsk-tsk! Basta, AMEN na lang! :D |
| Nyark, bat prince charming ang hinihintay mo? Haha!
Mag-reggae ka na lang para dumating na ang iyon binibini! ;) |
| Ahaaaaay! *kilig to the nth level*
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| Baka naman kasi naiwan mo dito sa Pinas ang Fafa Frince mow ;-) |
| A big AMEN to that sistah! :)
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 | Hi Marley! The one man for you will come one day, God always gives more than what we expected for He is bigger than our imagination...So be excited!
As for now, continue living a full life with purpose, that's what's important...that we live our lives for the present, not losing what is given to us in the here and now. :)
And when you have found the guy...tell me how it goes...I'm also excited for you. :) |
 | no comment. hehehe :D. love u marls. I can court you. hahaha. kidding. just to chill u up :P. |
| marleyreyes wrote on Apr 22, '07, edited on Apr 22, '07 Aww, you're so sweet dear ;-) ahlabsyuuuu!
Gusto kong bulaklak gardenias and lilies, ha? :p |
 | Love this entry, Marley. :) God will so honor you for your patience and your commitment to Him, first and foremost! :D God bless ya, dear! |
| Amen dear! :)
God bless ya! Hope to see you soon! :D |
 | That's it. I'm launching www.datemarley.com
HAHAHAHA! |
| marleyreyes wrote on Apr 23, '07, edited on Apr 23, '07 Wahahahaha! Hello... Colgate! :-p |
 | ei, high school friend, ok lang yan, God will surely bless you, just kip on prayin lng. hirap kc ng age ntin db, wer too old to flirt but then wer 2 young 4 a serious rel. HE makes all things beautiful in His tym... |
| marleyreyes wrote on Apr 23, '07, edited on Apr 23, '07  HE makes all things beautiful in His tym...  Amen to that brother! :)
I do believe he is somewhere out there... baka papunta na sa bahay ko pero di marunong magbasa ng mapa kaya naliligaw pa :-p |
 | Oi grabe patok ang entry na 'to ah! |
 | Hello Marls... you are such a romantic! But honestly, girl, take it from me, your Ate, surrender that to the Lord. I know where you are coming from because I have been there. I never had a boyfriend till I was 30 years old, and he is now my husband. You are still very young. I advise you to live your single life to the hilt for the Lord. The more you focus on your love life, the more it will elude you, believe me. The more you spend your energies on serving the Lord, the more fulfilled you will be. And may I just add that a husband will never complete you; only Jesus will. God's Word says, "Do not stir up love, do not awaken love until it is time." This is not yet your time. It can be disastrous it we try to take timing into our own hands. I have lived a very full single life, and I don't regret any part of it. You don't have to be hung up on your future or who this guy will be; if it is in God's will, it will come at the right time. In the meantime, don't miss out on all that God wants for you now. Let the Lord fill your emotional tank right now. He is more than enough for you now. ;) |
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